A contract or a file

Suit? Ready, Shoes? Ready and Fancy Tie? They are all set sir— that sounds perfect! I ended with a smile playing on my cheeks

I girlishly walked my way from my bedroom to the living room, just like a girl who couldn't wait to behold the bodily figure of her fiance

On getting to the sitting room, I put a call straight to “my lovey-dovey” in an attempt to ask her about the wedding plans, and of course, her response was quite Comforting

She replied darling everything is set...

I silently commented—that voice sounds sexy and captivating!

Of course, I wasn't seeing just a wife, I was seeing a life partner who is ready to walk with me in the thick and thin of life

In a couple of weeks, we will be officially endorsed and recognized as husband and wife, and sincerely that is just a stark formality…

The journey to a life contract ensues from the very moment you stepped into the bond of courtship...

All you learned in your courtship will form the foundational basis of your togetherness as husband and wife...

It is crystal clear to mature-minded persons that storm won't fail to strike like thunder in homes and what you take into your home will form the contending weapon to fight every storm in your homes

In courtship, there should be a moment of fun and a moment of hard talk...

Oh I guess that sounds quite unpleasant to your ears and probably giving you negative emotions

Of a truth, I wouldn't fail to recognize the aspect of two imperfect beings coming together to become perfect and sincerely that makes it more essential to extensively create a moment of hard talk

“What you failed to attack and bury in courtship is potentially ready to bury your home”

“If you are weak in courtship, you will be a weakling of disaster in your home”

This bogus statement has truly traveled to the nook and cranny of the world and has rewarded many hearts with coins of weakness— “Love is blind and it makes you act like a fool”

I stand to be corrected, love is not blind and that is a wrong orientation...

Okay, for instance, if love is blind, why didn't you fall in love with a mad man walking on the street? — I'm sorry if that sounds harsh

It is ultimately important to approach the period of courtship with hard talk that will undoubtedly produce a fruitful result

Nothing works until the required force is exerted

*don't wish for a fruitful home, if you are not ready to learn and apply the required knowledge needed to stabilize your home

It's not about reciting a poem on the eve of Val, dashing out enthralling gifts on her birthday, or buying her sumptuous ice cream when you are coming from work...

You both must be ready to reach a consensus because every decision you take will tell on your future and that of your children…

“The beauty of a Mistake is to learn not to copy and paste the same mistake again on your system”

T.D Jakes said in his book titled “Before You Do”: the definition of lunacy is to keep doing the same thing, the same way and to expect a different outcome

A story was told of a girl who had a young child; a son to be precise, at a very tender age with no adequate support from the father and the father's side to nurture and nourish the child in becoming a better person in the society

*you know what, imagine that same lady eventually turns into a famous whore, which led to the delivery of another innocent child...

Who is to be blamed? Herself or her fate? Logically speaking, she is to be blamed, and emotionally speaking, we might want to start attaching the outcome of her life to some reasons

Marriage is the container while destiny is the content”

It takes grace to fulfill destiny and even to make heaven if we marry wrongly

No matter how promising a destiny is, if you marry wrongly, it will be a story that will end in tears...

In this context, the container symbolizes a defensive vessel, and no matter how potent content is, it's protection is in the hands of the container

Marriage is not a big deal: the big deal is the sustainability of homes — oh you might want to say, God will decide that.

God truly has a role to play and that is if you allow him to lead and we dutifully have a role to play too

The yardstick to a fulfilling home is not solely rested on love and not even on understanding and what could that be?

I will call it “work it out approach”

“Work out your home”

“A glimpse of fun is considered a very important oil for the wheel of a successful home”

“Fun is good, it is a potent recipe to bury stress and awake your hidden smile”

It is equally important to work out the right values, missions, and visions to ensure a successful home

“You can't be a bad girlfriend and become a good wife and equally you can't be a bad wife and becomes a good mother”

It is impossible to give, what you obviously lack...

And also, you can't be a bad boyfriend and become a good husband and equally, you can't be a bad husband and becomes a good father

It is impossible to be confident of a topic, you've never heard or read

*e are in a world where everyone registers for an exam and also enter the examination hall without studying & still wanna blame the examiner or the lecturer when they fail

Many don't want to read & still crave to lead...

Grace only works when you are in the race, not when you are just wishing or lazy

The letter G on the Grace symbolizes God & it becomes activated when you are on the Race

The nitty-gritty is, it is impossible to have a peaceful home if you lack certain values needed for such a life-contract

“What you lack is not love, what you lack is value”

Humility, right communication skills, prayer, faith, love, endurance, and many others and the fact is, you can't learn this on the street, you learn this through research

You can't be lazy and have a fruitful life