LOVE AND PRIDE

I could remember every detail I learned from the seminar I attended on the 27th of July 2004 which was tagged "Love and Pride", which has really brought about a huge change in my life.

Every of the details expressed by Mr. Tomiwa Adeolu really gave me more insight on certain reasons that broke homes and relationships as we have them today.

It's so alarming, looking at the rate at which homes and relationships crumble these days is really getting out of hand and this made me remember those facts that were delivered by Mr. Tomiwa Adeolu on how the journey of love could come to a halt by the activation of "PRIDE"

I still can't forget how he describes "PRIDE" like a man who is ready to give everything it takes to ruin homes and relationships, he doesn't mind being wet by heavy rain or being beaten by the scorching sun to see an end to a relationship that is blossoming. He doesn't mind losing everything he has acquired in his entire life to see the exit of a blossoming relationship.

I believe you can see how desperate "PRIDE" gallantly stands to see an end to a home that is sweet or a relationship that is adorable.

Love doesn't give birth to "PRIDE", it rather gives birth to sacrifice, forgiveness, tolerance, submissiveness and so on. Many homes and relationships are becoming a thing of the past due to the domination of pride. Many lives are being ordered by pride instead of being ordered by Love.

Love is brought into silence by the force of pride, you never can tell the stage your home or relationship would have reached by now if your love life is being piloted by the fruits of love. If "PRIDE" is being displayed as an act by you, you need to know fully well that love does not rule in your heart.

Many even failed to understand the potent power embedded in this statement"I am sorry" as one of the key elements that help in ensuring a successful relationship.

Many relationships and homes have become a thing of the past as a result of their failures to master this simple statement "I am sorry", it's a pity how many have taken the word "SORRY" as a word of a coward and live under the governance of PRIDE.

Sorry is an active charm that can take off a loaded gun ready to fire, from the hands of an angry husband, it is the word that seeks to calm every storm that is blowing so heavily. This is the word that seeks to ensure continuity in every home and relationships. It is not a trait of someone whose life is being ordered by PRIDE, it is the word that seeks forgiveness and foster unity. Homes and relationships are found breaking because each of the members finds it hard to voice "SORRY" even when they are wrong, they end up giving excuses.

A relationship should be built on understanding and sacrifice, the sharp contrast that sees an end to the journey of love is "PRIDE".

So many things in life grow when given the chance to, certain questions need to be asked;

Would you allow the PRIDE in your heart to keep on growing and ruin your relationship which can lead to a happy home? 

Would you allow PRIDE to set on your journey and destroy all you have given into your relationship?

           

 

Would you just allow your years of relationship to come to an end when you failed in your attempt to calm the storm in your relationship through the utterance of the statement: "I am sorry".

Sometimes you need to say "SORRY" when there is a crisis in your relationship, even when you are right, just to calm the situation and when all is calm, you can revisit the issue and get things solved as adults.

Love sets to ensure a peaceful continuity and this can be achieved through the statement "I am sorry", is a statement of a hero not of a coward. A hero sets to promote peace, not to fight battles, it is not a statement of pride, it is that of love. 

The only thing that "PRIDE" gives birth to is destruction: it destroys things, if truly it is love, it will definitely be brought to test and is expected to display humility, sacrifice, understanding, tolerance and so on. If the journey of your love is being governed by Pride, no one needs to tell you that destruction is knocking at the door of such a relationship.

How would you claim you love someone and it is evidently seen that you are way proud to call, text or chat? No relationship grows under the governance of "PRIDE"

"PRIDE" has killed many relationships that could have lasted for eternity, love comes to break ugly standards and replace them with suitable ones.

Every relationship that leads to Marriage must have definitely passed through the corridor of sacrifice, tolerance, forgiveness, and submissiveness.

No doubt about it, there is no perfect match in a relationship because people's lives are governed by different cultural beliefs, raised and wired by different parents with different orientations about life injected into our systems. It is normal to see striking differences in the way we do things, in fact, that is the beauty of relationship to correct and balance the differences in love.

No relationship can successfully lead to Marriage without passing through the corridor of love where understanding, sacrifices, tolerance, submissiveness, and forgiveness dwell and all these agents of love will seek to maintain balance in our dealings in life.

It is time to sit yourself down and begin to analyze those areas where you have been missing it, anybody can call, text and all that, don't stop your relationship with the ideology of he or she should be the one doing the calling all the time, it might not work that way.

Love does not see that as a fault, it sees that as a need to talk to your spouse and iron things out as two mature adults.  Love is not looking for a perfect man, it stands to perfect two imperfect beings and this can not be achieved without displaying the fruits of love, not living under the order of "PRIDE".

Most importantly, always be careful of the advice given by friends and through other sources, what works for you might not work for the other person.  Don't allow people around you to nurture your PRIDE, they are put there to guide you and you also need to know this, they can lead you astray.

Many relationships have been ruined under the leadership of many who called themselves "ministers of God".  This also needs to be addressed, there is a huge difference between Pride and Self-esteem, many are displaying "PRIDE" as a habit, thinking it is self-esteem. It is also important to be careful of not losing one's self-esteem in the process of making things work, being a slave to love is not even entertained by me.

Simply put, your self-esteem is your self-worth, your dignity and your values that should be consciously valued and protected from being soiled while pride is that man who raises himself above others when he is nothing and also believes he is ever right.

Let your relationship be built on the bond of understanding, forgiveness, sacrifice, submissiveness, and tolerance under the governance of love. I wish you a successful relationship and a happy home.

I love you...