Sorry is not enough

I was home feeling frustrated, why was that?  I was out of data

I felt the need to go out and hurriedly got a data, then I suddenly stopped while trying to materialize my thoughts

What did I do? I decided to feed my brain from a book written by Garry Chapman and Jennifer Thomas, published in Chicago

I must confess, it was a flow of ideas sent from heaven

The book copiously expresses on how we can magically turn our world to be worthy of living

Of course, the idea of friendship and  relationship can not be ruled out in our world

Our existence surely rests on the wall of friendship and relationships

In achieving this, we need to understand the systematic nature of the human system and the strategies that must be applied in achieving a peaceful existence

The book didn't fail to understand human imperfections, we were often called imperfect lovers expected to be perfect in all ways

The book did not fail to recognize the fact that, there is no way, we would not offend one another

Earlier stated, we are imperfect lovers, of course, we are not near to perfection, the bane of broken relationships or friendship could be hinged to our wrong approaches when we display any trait of imperfections

I must confess sorry is not enough

Sorry is a form of expression delivered the moment we feel, we are wrong...

The issue is, “our sorry” does not always equal to our actions

We always feel that the moment we say sorry, everything goes back to normal

We never knew we had left a pint of pain and grief in the hearts of those we have offended

Some even see, an “expression of Sorry” as a sign of weakness on their very paths

Instead of saying sorry, they would try to justify their faults with beautiful excuses

If truly we love ourselves and crave for the continuity of our relationship or friendship, our actions must always stand equal to our words

I remember a very hurtful incident that pierced my heart with a dagger, that should be many years ago

I was left shattered, broken and lonely in a midst of misfortune, all displayed by someone I wished to spend the rest of my life

She tabled her excuses so beautifully, for taking a walk away out of my life and totally looked like it was all my fault

I was found gasping for air under the tutelage of pain and loneliness

She left without saying sorry to my broken heart, it was like “the expression of hell on my existence”

Love became a monster I would rush to kill on the spot

What did she do? She pierced me in the heart and swinged into the arms of a stinkingly rich guy


Years passed away before I could forgive myself and what If I tell you, I have forgiven her without seeking for my forgiveness


Yeah,the pain was a lesson not a life sentence

So how many of us, can do that?

Forgiving someone who did not even see the need to say sorry or someone who walked out of your life with one beautiful excuse🤣🤣🤣

The truth is this, if you don't forgive them, you will keep on nurturing emotional wound in your heart and you know what is funny, the person will be happy and you will be sad for the rest of your life

Forgiveness heals the soul and the heart, it is never a sign of weakness

It is a sign of strength...

Wailing in pain will continue to tear your heart apart, it can't heal that...

First, you need to forgive yourself and secondly you need to forgive the offender...

Like one of the back street boys' song “Life goes on as it never ends”

We all know, life will end but it still goes on as we speak...

Why crying over a spilled milk?


And of course, it should not stop you from trying love again, just like an old axiom that says, if you fall off the wagon, you try and try again

So I beseech you to give love another chance, life is not beautiful without love

In making our world a better one...

There are some languages called “five love languages” that can be applied and I tell you, if we can apply them to our lives, we are assured of experiencing feely touchy peaceful existence

Here are the love languages...

Words of Affirmation

Receiving Gifts

Acts of service

Physical touch

Quality time


Watch out for part 2

Thanks for reading