To Every Intending Father

Flipping through the recently raging issues in our society, particularly, the rate at which our young and old women are being devoured has gone haywire— it is so alarming!

I have sat down on several occasions with my hands partly placed on my head and I've asked myself, what can

be effectuated as a father to abate such atrocious acts?

In the moments of deep thoughts, I have realized one of the influential powers of women over men are strategically placed in the sights of every woman and study also, have convincingly

proved that men are easily

controlled bų sight...

Leaving it all into the hands of the law could have their dreams twisted and shattered

This is not naysaying, it is crystal clear that our young and old women are undoubtedly breathing in fear of not being the next victim of such atrocious instance

These monstrous and barbaric acts must be abated because its extremity would be terrible if the ball keeps rolling

If we keep folding our arms as individuals, groups & nations,  I fear the extremity of such demonic acts. I heard of what happened to a young futuristic lady, who decided to study in

church & she was reportedly raped and died in the process ...

If I start counting these demonic acts, a day won't be enough to stretch them out

Specifically stated, I want to charge every father or intending father into the performance of these holistic duties, which I believe, these will go along way in abating or thwart these atrocious and malicious acts buzzing in our society 

MY SUBMISSIONS

👉Moral Values: I will strive so hard to nurture my female children, “the raw principle of moral values” as they grow into stages in life.  I will ensure, these traits are thoroughly reflecting in their Iives. 

They will be morally disciplined in their outfits, morally disciplined in their verbal expressions, and will be morally disciplined in their social interaction with one another.

A child who is not morally cultured will surely be condensed with immorality

I wouldn't stop them from making

male friends.

   👉 Communication: there is a huge difference between talking and communicating. They are two worlds apart. As a father, I promise not just to be talking, I will be communicating.

So many parents are just talking,

they are not communicating, as a matter of emphasis— they barely know what their children are going through and this often affects the lives of most children.

👉 The behavioral pattern of men

I wouldn't fail to teach them, the dynamic nature of every man. I would sit them down and tell them the systematic nature of every man regardless of their beliefs.

 The truth is, only a few ones are

men, the rest are boys wearing

the face of mature men.

I wouldn't fail to teach them how to spot a real man and a boy— no matter how smart they are…

  👉LifeStyle

Of course, I will set them on the path of righteousness, and also, I wouldn't stop them from looking alluring and gleaming but all will be tailored to the standard of morality.

They won't have any reason to be enticed by the fancy jingling things because they will be endowed with it.

We are in a world where the words of God are less valued by most of the youths.

 People open their bibles when they feel like but always open their phones or tablets, even in the midnight to chat and wouldn't mind going extra miles to have their phones charged over and over again, to resume chatting.

I wouldn't fail to teach them the prominence of studying the bible in facing life difficulties...

👉Not just a father, also a friend...

I won't just be a father by title- sometimes I will be their motivator; charging them to set goals...

We will sometimes read together, rub minds on the lessons learned and so one.

I won't be too busy to deny my children the role of a father...I don't need to follow them everywhere they go in life but my teachings will see them through.

 I will try as much as possible to be their best friend, I won't leave it all to their mother

Oh, would I deny them this?  I wouldn't deny them access to hanging out with friends and family. If they want to pop champagne on their birthdays,

they will surely have them popped...

I wouldn't just feed them but nurture them, I wouldn't dictate for them, I will guide them. I wouldn't choose for them, but I wouldn't fail to guide them every stage of their lives. 

And finally, I will always pray for them, as long as I live…

And, l would ensure all the evil miscreants are brought to book and wouldn't go scot-free. They deserve to be killed, not to be spared for one second….I will do my own part in raising my children and I believe, if all fathers or parents can do this, it will go a long way in helping the lives of our children…

My fear is, how would I be able to instill these values without walking in them myself..? This means to inculcate these into them, I equally need to live the good life l want my children to be living- and of course, there is no way to give what I don't have.

 To cap it all, our children are the mirror reflection of who we truly are...

It all begins with you and me. Ask yourself, the kind of life, you are living, will you pray that your child or children walk in your shoes?

We are the foundational basis of our children-we have a vital role to play in their lives…

let's do the right thing!