7 Amazing Charms For An Healthy Relationship

Her radiant smile ,her irresistible figure,her angelic voice ,her intellectual prowess...

Or probably the way she girlishly walks as if she got a broken wing or the way she calls you in and makes you tremble through the power of her dazzling eyeballs

His magical scent, his cute bright face,his bold voice or his voice that sounds like that of an angel,his heftily tall stature and on like that

I wish I could keep these romantic chunks racing,I never prayed to pause or halt this romantic beats pulsating.

A friend named Janet, warmly asked me — Georgina,would you love to travel to Paradise?

I coughed out laugher & said ,no ,I have found a paradise dazzling my eyes “Galaxy”

I felt really good & I wish I could pin down the feelings like a nail punched through a wall.

His smile drives me crazy ,the way he launches my heart into the cozy arms of an angel to guide me through the dangers of the night

I really wish I could stabilize this romantic feelings,so in achieving that,I even added it to my Prayer List— I silently whisper a prayer point — “ God,keep our love safe like the way bankers keep money safe in the vault

I was smiling and laughing uncontrollably, the love feels like home ,it's a feeling I just couldn't explain…

My skin begins to glow with no scrub or special cream applied...

I was glowing like the radiance of the sun. Becky and Miracle couldn't fail to announce my skin to the world and at a point,they became envious of my spotlessly captivating skin...

“Tom is the gin inside my bottle”

I was feeling on top of the world and boom,the promises we pledged started crawling into the dark furnace..

My daily message became the story I titled once upon a time

The feelings I cherished with my life started crawling away ,like the books silently leaving the shelves in the library

I never prayed,our love story ended like Titanic or the story of Romeo and Juliet

I panted, yearned ,wept and said ,I wish it never started,I wish I never had this unfortunate chemistry

Who added acid to our chemistry ?

I wish I knew it was a game whose end was labelled with destruction

I wish I had read the signs from the beginning

Now I am throwing tantrums of heartbreak and regret. How I wish it was a music with no lyrics,it sucks!

How I wish it was a beautifully painted lie!

He left me dancing with a ghost

My soul was calling and no could answer

He left me crying in the rain — it sucks

He left me whispering in the crowd

He stole my show and left me in the cold

Oh I nearly forgot what he detailed inside a small note. He squeezed into my pocket and sauntered away ...

I thought it was a gift,I never knew it was a dagger hidden in a small note...

It reads,I am sorry ,I feel nothing anymore Georgina. Be good!

The love we cherished was utterly hurried and buried

The story detailed, practically expressed the story of a young lady who felt love in the beginning and sadly, it ended in tears and stark regret

Probably you never knew, relationship is like a journey that could only go well with a right map and I tell you , without the right map ,no matter how promising it looks in the beginning,it would undoubtedly end in stark extinction

Moments of ups and downs are the two cogent elements that have never failed to pop-up their ugly heads in relationships

We are human,we are not angels. We had once learned this philosophical gospel in Economics .

We had once read and studied the law of diminishing returns. We are matured adults! We need not, be deceived ,feelings go cold,actually not true love.

We need true feelings to drive love home & how can we keep this romantic chemistry flying & glowing amid the moments of humpy bumpy phases in Relationship?

Fasten your seat belt, clear your throat and put on your “knowledge cap”,as we journey and unleash together “the 7 amazing charms for healthy relationships”

1. Consistent Communication✔️,not unhealthy talk

The sole aim of Communication is to establish understanding. The question is ,what do you discuss while courting or in relationships? The bane of many failed relationships is unhealthy talk. Truly they talk but they do not communicate issues

“You only talk to strangers,you communicate to your spouse, friends and convertible clients”

“When you communicate, you didn't just gain their attention, you gain their hearts”

“When you communicate you gain their time(life) ,when you talk,you have just the moment”

Start communicating!

Qualitative discussion sparks up the emotional chord...

It is a question of what you discuss while courting

I tell you ,this is funny but true ,there are many people who have been legally declared as husbands & wives but sadly speaking,their hearts are with another persons

Communication also helps in building trust & strengthens relationships. You must learn how to communicate effectively…

Communication births familiarity. It takes you from the position of strangers to friends ...

It's a rude truth,and of course it's hard to believe.

Check it out— you could live together with someone for years and you will still be tested as potential strangers...

“When you communicate ,you trigger emotions and emotion is the food of the feelings”...

2. Love Language

There are practically 5 love languages ,as it stands. Permit me to mention them...

1. Quality time

2. Physical touch

3. Word of affirmation

4. Act of Service

5. Gift

As a potential couple ,your inability to discover your spouse's love languages in order of importance will of course frustrate the courtship or walk it into stark doom ,no matter how blossoming the courtship has been...

These love languages is a mechanism that turns up the ship of your love each and anytime it goes down ...

You see ,we are all wired differently,what attracts you might not attract me. Go get it!

Banky W and his wife,Adesua; a blockbuster nollywood actress shot a video to the internet, revealing the significance of love languages

Banky W was effortlessly and affectionately exercising a wrong love language to his wife. Concisely,he was busy buying gifts when he was supposed to be spending quality time with his beloved wife. Until he did the right thing,the cold war existing between them couldn't be resolved

Go identify yours and make it known to your partner!

3. Strength Factor

If I take you back to the memory lane, especially in university days ,you might have been taught “The Revelation of SWOT ANALYSIS”.

Frankly speaking,this revelation is not only applicable to companies ,it is equally applicable to individual personalities...

The bane of many broken homes and relationships today is centralized on weaknesses.

Why do you zoom on your partner's weaknesses?

What of his or her area of strength?

Let me sound romantically,what of his beautiful eyeballs,her dulcet voice , her trait of humility,his style of expression, his romantic gesture or her succulent pink lips

Why paying too much attention to the black spots ,what of the glowing spots?

The reality is ,no one is perfect. We are daily working towards perfection.

In an extensive outlook,if we are all born perfect or the moment we give our lives to Christ,we are truly made perfect ,then we do not need to go to church again...

God's words is the engine that keeps nurturing us into perfection

No one is above mistake. Forgiveness means to understand the behavioural patterns of human…

Instead of focusing on your partner's weaknesses,you can sit on it and talk it out like two mature adults over a drink...

There is always a right time to spit it out,not every moment is right to communicate issues

Focus on each other's strength,table them and keep pondering on them.

Stop comparing your partner with others. It does more than a ruin to the relationship/courtship

4.GIVING

The scripture has this to say— give freely and become more wealthy;be stingy and lose everything

No courtship successfully thrives to marriage without exercising the concept of Giving...

Giving is not attached to quantity,it is attached to the quality

Are you a guy,who is stingy?

Are you a lady,who practically depends on your man? The truth of the matter is,you are both commissioned into giving ...

Infact,become a competitive giver to each other. Turn giving to a game.

It solidifies the courtship— Giving speaks to your heart. It's an expression of love displayed through gifts or services. It doesn't matter how small it is ,make sure you give qualitatively ,not quantitatively!

“Giving births connection”

Many centuries ago,God's creatures were disconnected from God through the practical discharge of sin introduced by the Satan and accepted by them ,having received *red warning* on every side...

Men lost their direct access to God and of course,God had to do something to bridge the costly lacuna and then he “gives away” his only begotten son for us to be connected to him again

Giving is spiritual. For you to be emotionally and spiritually connected,you must religiously exercise the concept of Giving ...

Giving is one of the languages your heart understand...

“For you to be connected,you must be a giver”

God gave away his priceless son,as a means of expressing his indefatigable love to us…

5. Build & Grow Together

Will there actually be ups & down?

Will law of diminishing of return set in ?

Will you guys feel like giving up on each other ?

Will there be hard-pressed moments?

The crystal truth is,this ugly phase is inevitable. I so much love this flying truism,which says ; *“not every storm is fashioned to destroy your tent ,some are meant to test the stability of your tent”*

Sincerely there are many courtships that began well but ended with failed reports. It's like a student who began a semester with good grades but was eventually rusticated due to unruly character

I tell you,An healthy relationship is not what you wish for,it is what you work for…

To run to the finished line amid the inevitable moments of ups and downs. You must intentionally build each other up intellectually, morally,scripturally and on like that.

You must read together,pray together,bounce ideas on each other,attend programs ,symposiums.

Build yourself towards becoming one,by doing this ,you are cocksure of growing the tenacity to combat and conquer every storm that may rise…

“What is wished for remains undone ,what is worked for is done”

You don't just whisper prayers,you work out your whisperings

Newton’s first law of motion describes inertia. According to this law, a body at rest tends to stay at rest, and a body in motion tends to stay in motion, unless acted on by a net external force.

Let's pray together,baby I am busy , let's read together,is it a must ?

Let's bounce ideas on each other, let's listen to talks on relationships ,baby leave me alone , Let's bounce ideas on each other,you see I am a busy person, please,I don't have time for this wishy-washy experience and you want to grow together? O wrong now,you can't grow together ,if you end up getting married,you only patched your courtship into marriage...

You may look gleaming,stunning,tantalizing,(give me another adjective) on your wedding day,you may look promising inside a Wrangler Jeep but hidden storms are warming up for you in marriage

“Fantasy may not stay forever”

Stop daydreaming,the external container will go dim like a faulty front light of a catastrophic Bajaj packed somewhere by the road side

Stop daydreaming! Do you think every couple wishes for Divorce ? No they do not ,they were lost in their fantasized moments

“If your external features are prioritized higher than internal features ,your home is heading towards an irreparable collision”

No home survives outside the knowledge of morality and Godliness...

You can't retain ,what is not contained”

6.An Altar For God

One of the men in the scriptures who enjoyed his wife to the fullest , despite their many years of childlessness ,was Abraham.

Sarah! Abraham's wife,was beautifully described by the scriptures as a eye-catchy woman,a cynosure of all eyes!

Many Kings autonomously craved to take her ,as their wife,one of them was Pharaoh. God appeared to Pharaoh warning him against his intention …

It souds like,Pharaoh of what do they call you ,if you try taking in ,Sarah as your wife ,your kingdom will be doomed ...

That Abraham's guy you see is my personal person

The question is ,are you God's personal person?

Have you built an altar with God?

God's properties do not suffer

God can not be cheated or deceived

The greatest security anyone could have is God

If you don't carry God for your head,tell me waiting you gain,I need your answer?

“Nothing dies in God's hands”

Abraham gave God his totality . When you give God yourself,he will give you himself

Build a family altar with your spouse and I tell you,you are assured of God's victory,no matter the tumultuous storm

Don't be deceived! God doesn't need us,we are the one that need him

You winnings are limited without God. Don't joke with family altar!

7. APPRECIATION

Some ladies do not know how to appreciate just a little kind gesture expressed by their men...

Equally,some men do not know how to sing praises to their women

I tell you,it's that simple thing that makes a big difference

If you are a poet,write a poem for him or her…

If you are a singer ,you can do that too.

“Baby thank you for loving me!”

As simple as that statement is,it will of course go a long way in strengthening the bond of relationship

Don't wait for the third party to start appreciating your man or woman

Appreciate your precious cargo! My wealthy king…

My queen,my gold,my world,my beautiful neck ...

Confess to each other that ,I love you

Tell him or her,you are the best thing that has happened to me after salvation

Don't let a day pass without appreciating each other.

Appreciate God for giving you each other!

Don't be so close that you forget to appreciate each other on a daily basis

Don't lose the diamond and start chasing the mutilated stones!

I see God helping us!

We are not just expressing ,we are impacting!

©️ Kingdom Shaker